The mere fact of being human means that we will experience pains and hurts in most, if not all, of our close relationships. Given that we are sheltering in place, the opportunity to hurt and being hurt greatly increases. We may even be surprised by our response at times. Many of our attachment difficulties have roots in early childhood and our

We not only crave—but absolutely need—secure attachments with others from the time we are born and throughout our lifespan. Hopefully, our parents were able to adequately fulfill their role as our first healthy attachment figures. Deep down, we need to know that we are loved, accepted, heard and that our needs will be met. As we

Valentine’s Day often makes couples take stock of their relationship. Were you excited to make plans? Or were you less enthused than you have been in the past? Perhaps one or both of you were fine to let the day slip by with few festivities because communication has been a bit strained lately. Whatever the case, it’s always good to

“We are, at last, building a science of intimate relationships. We are mapping out how our conversations and actions reflect our deepest needs and fears and build or tear down our most precious connections with others.” Dr. Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love) Creating a lasting, loving relationship

What were your visions of romantic love before you became a couple? You likely had grand expectations of coupled life. Most of us do. Generally, those ideas are fueled by one's values, dreams, experiences, and desires. Yet, the realities of true partnership when love does come along can punch a few holes in some of our most cherished

Money is one of the most common issues couples fight about, even before marriage. But, once you share finances or have to talk to each other about them, things can start to feel pretty tense.  While there are plenty of old stereotypes and tropes about “money fights,” they’re no laughing matter.  Knowing how to talk

When couples feel disconnected, it can be difficult to feel like there is a strong emotional bond. Each partner feels insecure about whether the other truly cares about them. If you believe that your partner doesn’t care about you, then you may wonder about their feelings about the relationship? It’s this kind of questioning that can

Premarital counseling isn’t necessarily for everyone. But it can be very beneficial for some couples who are getting ready to make a lifelong commitment. Knowing whether you will benefit from premarital counseling can help you to make an informed decision about seeking it out.  Chances are, you’ve been so caught up in the bliss

Arguments happen, even in healthy relationships. It’s how you argue that makes the difference between strengthening your relationship or leading to disconnection. Recurring arguments about the same subject typically mean there are underlying issues not being worked out. If you’re having the same argument repeatedly with no real

You’ve prayed and read scripture. Maybe you’ve talked to mentors in your circle of loved ones. Perhaps you’ve even studied couples that seem to have what you want: a loving, communicative, rock-solid connection. And now, you’ve decided that you’re ready to turn the corner on your relationship. Where do you go now?