A shift in sexual desire can feel confusing, discouraging, or even alarming — especially when it affects your marriage or your sense of who you are. It's a deeply personal experience, and one that's often surrounded by shame or silence rather than open conversation. Here's what's important to understand: decreased desire is incredibly common,

Divorce is often described as one of the most challenging experiences an adult can face. The emotional upheaval, financial stress, and uncertainty about the future can feel insurmountable. For people of faith, this difficult time may prompt questions about God's plan, feelings of spiritual isolation, or confusion about how to reconcile their

When faith communities talk about marriage, there's a quiet assumption underneath the conversation: that shared beliefs, church attendance, and a commitment to grace should naturally produce healthy, peaceful relationships. If two people love God and love each other, the thinking goes, their partnership should be free from manipulation, control,

Somewhere along the way, we absorbed the idea that couples therapy is only for relationships in crisis. It is often seen as the last-ditch effort before the divorce papers are signed. Because of that belief, most couples wait an average of six years from the first signs of trouble before they ever step into a therapist’s office. Six years.

Many people think relationship problems start with communication, but that’s only part of the story. The deeper issue often comes down to how safe or unsafe you feel with other people. This is where attachment styles come in. Attachment styles are patterns you develop early in life. They shape how you connect, handle conflict, respond to

Most arguments aren’t really about what they appear to be about. The dishes. The finances. The comment your in-law made at dinner two years ago. Beneath all of it, what’s usually happening is two nervous systems in full-on threat response, colliding with each other rather than connecting. As couples, we tend to think of communication as a simple

Many of us grew up absorbing the quiet but persistent message that the less you ask for, the easier you are to love. So when a genuine need arises, whether emotional, logistical, or relational, we hesitate. We feel guilty. We convince ourselves that speaking up makes us a burden, and so we go silent instead. But trying to be a “zero-need”

Do you ever feel like you and your partner keep having the same argument — different topic, same fight? Maybe one of you pushes for connection while the other pulls away. Maybe conversations that start small spiral into silence or defensiveness before either of you knows what happened. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone — and you're not

The mere fact of being human means that we will experience pains and hurts in most, if not all, of our close relationships. Given that we are sheltering in place, the opportunity to hurt and be hurt greatly increases. We may even be surprised by our response at times. Many of our attachment difficulties have roots in early childhood and our

We not only crave—but absolutely need—secure attachments with others from the time we are born and throughout our lifespan. Hopefully, our parents were able to adequately fulfill their role as our first healthy attachment figures. Deep down, we need to know that we are loved, accepted, heard, and that our needs will be met. As we grow up,